Unless you are being extremely fake in a relationship, at some point, you will have fights. I don’t mean physical punches and kicks, I mean arguments, disagreements, walking outs. Fights happen because we are human and we can’t possibly agree on everything.
Most people handle fights poorly and end up “cutting off” people in the name of “self love”. When in all truth, the person was probably telling you something you didn’t want to hear. Because you do not want to confront your truth.
In my opinion, if the person means much to you. Conflict resolution is a must. Yet again, you could explain yourself but if someone doesn’t want to hear you they won’t understand you, no matter how much you explain yourself. So yes there are situations , where you just need to walk out.
So in conflict resolution, we should consider the following if we actually want to save the friendship. Remember we said even friendships need to be worked on. That includes addressing the more difficult issues.
1. Are you speaking your truth
There is no need to be a friend to someone who doesn’t hear your truth or doesn’t respect it. So both of you need to talk about your sides of the story. Let the other person try to see where you are coming from. Each person should actually listen to the other without invalidating their sentiments or dismissing there emotions.
2. Find common ground.
After hearing each other out. Find what the problem is. Talk about how you both feel you should go about it. Then agree on what the both of you to do. Set new boundaries if necessary.
Friendship is about love and respect. You both will have to respect each other’s wishes without either feeling undermined or given the shorter end of the stick. Because mutuality and equity is important.
It’s not really that complicated. It’s sitting down and talking with love, being honest and working to clear the problem. Some fights might need a little bit more time before people even see eye to eye. That is okay. Don’t speak in anger and say things you don’t mean. Wait to be calm and discuss issues.
Don’t lose friends because you are too cowardly to hear and speak your truth.
Thank you for reading
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