This is a topic that has brought much debate in the millennial era. Yes you guessed right, social media.
For some it is the absolute definition of evil while for others it is nothing less of heaven. Two extremes. Of course everything has it’s positives and it’s negatives.The question is, is social media helping us or is it pushing us into worse mental, physical and social conditions.
Let’s start with the positives.
It is way easier this days to communicate,make friends from all over the world, share pictures,music, articles you name it. For the people who lack social skills or have social anxiety, social media is perfect for them. There is no need for a face to face meeting to talk about issues. You can make friends from the comfort of your bedroom at the palm of your hands, engage in online discussions, take surveys,send feedback,post complaint I mean wow.
People earn from social media! Isn’t that heaven. Just upload awesome content get a huge following and boom apply for partnerships and what nots(by the way it is not as easy as I have put it)
Anyways, point is people are making the best out of social media. Question is, how does it serve you?
Is social media your distraction?
Is it what you go to when you are bored of work or the lecture is boring or you just have nothing to do seated in a matatu. It is great distraction we have to agree. Works perfectly sometimes I convince myself how I’ll just browse for ten minutes then read the rest of the time. Then half an hour later I am deeply engrossed in the latest updates by theshaderoom on Instagram and I’m in the library apparently reading. It is honestly a struggle to keep that phone away and do something productive.
Is social media your source of inspiration?
This is actually very common. It is a great way to get to see what everyone else is doing world wide. Staying trendy. Very efficient. Everyone’s know Pinterest making you want to get ten tiny tattoos and piercings .
Groups like LGBTQ get together online and find support in each other make friends find mates. On the point of finding mates dating apps. Game changers easy way to meet people. My point is social media is great but if you decide to take charge of it and not vice versa.
A lot of of damaging is also happening due to social media. Pressure put on people especially the young people to look this type of way,to wear these type of clothes, to eat from particular joints, to take perfect pictures to have the perfect hair style. Perfection is a myth guys. Yes there are people who live those posh lives and you are so lucky if you do but do not put pressure on yourself to look like someone,dress like them. We need to acknowledge our backgrounds and be true to ourselves.
People are so driven by the likes they get, it gives them some sense of self reward. One tends to fill socially accepted and their opinions are hence more valued and behaviours copied. Now this is not bad the issue is why should the number of likes affect your mood or self esteem. You can have a thousand likes and invite more scrutiny into your life. Now here comes the pressure to be perfect, say all the right stuff, look the right way, go to all the right places, live a whole life which is not yours at all.
Comparison is thief of all joy. Guys out here are getting depressed because the do not feel they are enough, they do not feel worthy of even being alive and it is sad. Be keen and mindful of your feelings and thoughts. If you feel kind of low after seeing people living the so called their “best lives” on social media, give yourself a break from it. There is no shame in wanting to feel good about yourself. People will only showcase the good. That is just how humans are. We want people to think we have it all together. No one has it all together. Ask the person you think everything is going good for them if they are completely honest…there is either something they are working on or not satisfied with. We will all post when we are out partying or eating at an expensive restaurant but yoh, no one post s when eating from kwa mathe. We will post in the Uber not matatus ,in town and not our grandma’s mad house, photos with fancy backgrounds not the hood , we’ll post the cute pictures with our partners but not the ugly fights,what I’m trying to say we are all trying to fit in. Trying to showcase our best selves which most of the time is not our daily lives.
It is so painful to see people take their own lives because of an illusion.
An illusion of what people want you to see.
Self esteem is another issue. Yes people are out here living large and making money moves and you feel as if you are doing nothing with your life. Do not compare your chapter one to someone’s chapter twenty. We all have different paths in life do you and at take on life at your own pace. No shame in that.
Look do not let it get to your head. Live your own life you are perfect the way you are . Believe that you have everything you need for the moment that you are in now. Yearn for growth for yourself not to be like someone.
Stop saying stuff online that you wouldn’t want plastered on a billboard with your face on it. We are damaging people and we don’t even know it. Yes some have grown a tough skin but some can’t handle the cyber bullying, the body shaming, trolls, toxic comparisons, it is wrong.
There is less and less face time and I’m talking about real face time not video chats. Walks in the parks (Kama ziko kwenu) coffee dates, love letters (side note: I really want the love letters trend to come back again honestly,call me corny but they are so sweet, they are the better version of morning paragraphs *sigh* so romantic ) anyways back to what I was saying we are loosing touch with ourselves. Sleep overs are basically staring at your phone at your friends place.
Guys be mindful of your feelings and aware of how things around you affect you. Let us be happy in 2019.
Thanks for reading loves:)❤️